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HBP and Cobweb [May. 30th, 2008|09:50 am]
In which Wade anticipates the arrival of his kittehs!

[Warning: If you do not love cats, you won't understand this entry.]

Back in 2004, after my past-primary (Sue) moved in with me, we started discussing adopting cats. I've always liked cats, but had never really planned on having any, but Sue was very enthusiastic about the idea. We adopted an adorable little 10week old orange fluffball of a kitten, and named him Hawksley Peanut Butter. After allowing him to grow out of his heart murmur somewhat, we adopted another kitten, and named her Cobweb.

I honestly cannot believe how quickly and how thoroughly I fell in love with my cats. Everytime I walked from the elevator to my apartment, I'd get all enthused because I'd get to interact with HPB and Cobweb.

Sue and I parted ways in August 2005, but maintained joint custody of the kids for a year (two weeks at Sue's place, two weeks at my place) until Sue moved to Toronto. I've previously written about my feelings related to the loss of my cats, and the 2 hour drive to Toronto. I only managed to visit them 4 times during the next year, and haven't seen them at all since I moved to SF, although according to Sue they are doing very well.

I've known, since before I moved here, that there was a possibility that I'd be getting custody of the children again (I made sure when looking for apartments that cats were allowed). Sue has a new partner, and they have been planning on moving in together for a year, but have been waiting on various issues (divorce proceedings, his children, etc.). His parents live in his basement, and are unfortunately very allergic to cats, so it would not be remotely practical for the cats to stay with them. This makes me sad, because I know from first hand experience how difficult it will be for Sue to say goodbye to the cats. For her sake, I've been hoping they'd be able to find some other solution, but it sounds like the cats will be coming to live with me sometime around the end of summer. I am ... enthused.

I'm amused at how absurdly parent-like I'm being about it all. I'm very concerned about how the kids will deal with the flight, because I know how terrified they were during the 2 hour drive to Toronto and can easily imagine the 5 hour flight (and all the pre and post activities around the flight) being a horrendously terrifying experience, especially for Cobweb, who is deathly afraid of enclosed spaces and detests being in cat carriers.

Knocking them out entirely is not viable because of circulation issues. There are apparently a variety of homeopathic and medically sanctioned means of reducing cat anxiety, but I need to do more research. And just because I think we should do things one way doesn't mean Sue will agree - she's been arguing that they'll be fine without anything. But she didn't have to take the 2 hour drive with them from London to Toronto.

And If I'm this stressed over the well-being of two cats during a 8 hour transportation experience, I cannot imagine how much worse it would be to deal with this kind of stress on a daily basis raising actual children. Why does anyone have children? Seems like too much stress! And they are so obnoxious!

In any event, lately I've been waking up in the mornings and remembering that there are very good chances that HPB and Cobweb will soon be living in San Francisco with me. They won't have as much room as they do in Sue's apartment, but there are some relatively safe outside-but-not-really-outside areas for them to explore (properly supervised, of course).

I'm very excited. And now that I've discoverd them, I'm totally planning on making some lolcats featuring my kids!


[User Picture]From: cindy_reddeer
2008-05-30 06:13 pm (UTC)
Yay! Kitties! Poor babies having to travel all alone, I hope you find something to sooth them and that Sue agrees. Make sure all their papers and shots are in order before they come, you don't want them turned away at customs because of a missing rabis shot certificate. ((Hugs))
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[User Picture]From: diachrony
2008-05-30 09:15 pm (UTC)
This is so fabulous! I bet you can't wipe the smile from your face just thinking about having your babies with you.

And I can't wait to see your LOLcats!
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[User Picture]From: dancing_nerd
2008-05-31 09:10 pm (UTC)

I actually had to go and make a new user icon for this news :)

I AM SO EXCITED FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know how much this means to you, I have soooooo much compersion....
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