In which Wade put's his ego where his mouth is, and encourages
one and all to interact with him with true honesty
I self identify very strongly as polyamorous (probably not a
surprise to anyone given my journal title ;-). The core philosophies
of polyamory resonate with me at a fundamental level. In fact,
the fact that polyamory has a set of core philosophies is part
of its wonderousness :-)
One of the most important of these philosophies is that of real,
true, radical, complete honesty, and the associated idea of real
communication. Elsewhere, I have written up some personal thoughts
on the matter of real honesty. Here, I am doing something a little
different, based on an absolutely wonderful idea
True honesty has three components:
- self-honesty and a desire to improve oneself
- real (empathetic, constructive) honesty
- being receptive to and actively encouraging real (
empathetic, constructive) honesty from others.
My primary motivation for journaling addresses #1 (exploring ways
to improve myself). My actions towards others must be the measure of
#2 (real empathetic honesty with others). And this posting is
meant to be a measure of #3.
I am hereby requesting your true, honest (presumably empathetic and
constructive) feelings and thoughts about the person you "know" from
my postings, bio, journal, and/or real life.
It is important that you appreciate that this request is motivated
from a sincere desire to identify and improve those aspects of myself
that I find lacking. The perceptions of others is an important part of
that process, and I value your input.
This is most emphatically not a request for ego stroking. If you
have positive things to say, that is very nice (and having ones
positive characteristics praised has the benefit of reinforcing them)
but please do not say nice things just to be saying nice things. If
you have negative things to say, I am sincerely receptive, and believe
they will be more beneficial to my overall quest for self improvement
than "nice" things.
Do note that when I say "empathetic and constructive", I do not
mean "kind and non-hurtful". Rather, I mean that you have my overall
self improvement as the motivation for sending the reply (as opposed
to a simple desire to be hurtful, which doesn't seem likely to lead to
my self improvement, and doesn't say nice things about you either :-).
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