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Love, Actually [Oct. 19th, 2006|05:50 am]
In which Wade tries his hand at yet another micro-entry. About love, actually. And pot.

Ok, so I rented Love Actually a few days ago, and just tonight got around to watching it. Oh my God! Such an amazingly wonderful movie. Rent it! Watch it! Rewind it and watch it again (I'm rewatching it while writing this entry)! It is so fucking awesome! I'm starting to realize that they really know how to write intelligent feel-good movies on the other side of the pond. I mean, you cannot go wrong with The Full Monty, and Four Weddings and a Funeral and oodles of others. And this one. So, let me reiterate - watch this movie!

In addition to my enthusiastic squeeness over this movie, let me take this opportunity to demonstrate yet again (as if I don't with every entry) my overall uncoolness, by relating a story associated with the watching of this movie. I mean, you didn't really think that I was going to end an entry after one paragaph, did you?

I rented this movie with a friend (Deb). It was actually a spur-of-the-moment pick - we'd rented two others, and got suckered into one of those "you can get one more for a dollar" Blockbuster dealies. We had already picked out Ten Tiny Love Stories, and some other movie I don't remember, and Deb suggested we get Love Actually (she had already seen it, but I hadn't, so she suggested that I could just take it home with me and watch it at my leisure). So, that is what we did. We watched Ten Tiny Love Stories that night (a really nice movie btw, awesome writing, very cool idea, very powerful monologs - you should totally rent it too!). I took Love Actually home with me, and watched it tonight.

Here is the funny part. I hadn't seen the movie. So, I start watching it. And immediately I start having this vague suspicion that maybe I actually had seen it. And yet I totally couldn't remember anything about the movie - just this vague niggling sense of familiarity. Then the familiarity would go away entirely and I'd once again be certain that I hadn't seen the movie. And then 5 minutes later it would be back.

It was kinda starting to freak me out, because I really would prefer if the Alzheimers symptoms held off for a few more centuries. Being forgetful is apparently a common phenomenon, but I'd like to believe it doesn't really happen all that often at the age of 36. There have been a few precedents for this kind of thing though. About 6 years ago, I was reading a sci-fi novel. On page 248, I realized I'd read the book before. Without having a single remembrance of this fact during the first 248 pages. This was damn freaky, 'cause I usually remember books very well (or so I believe). I rationalize this book reading catastrophe by noting that the first time I read the book was probably 21 years ago, with a few thousand sci-fish books in between, but still, it freaks me out every time I think about it.

Ok, back to my niggling familiarity feelings wrt Love Actually. I continue to alternate back and forth between a certainty that I haven't seen it, and a certainty that somehow I have seen this specific 30 seconds right here. But not the next 5 minutes. But yup, that 45 seconds there. And so on. All the while very much loving the movie itself, of course.

And then the explanation comes to me in a burst of sunshine - I totally realized what was going on! Admittedly, I cannot *guarantee* this with absolutely certainty, because I don't really remember, but it does fit all the evidence.

You see, what happened was this. Sue and I rented the movie (I hypothesize). Probably in the early months of our heady romance (I hypothesize). And then we proceeded to get really, really stoned (if it was during the first few months of our romance, that isn't just a hypothesis - hee hee). And then we presumably "watched" the movie.

Yup, it all fits. Sue was the one that corrupted me with respect to pot, at the tender age of 32 (I'd decided as a teen to wait till I was 25 to explore drugs, and didn't get around to it till 32 - I'm a slacker). So, especially in our first few months, when she was living in Toronto and I'd go in to visit her on weekends, we would spend most of our time sans clothing in her bedroom getting stoned, watching movies, playing board games and doing ... other things. At the very beginning of the relationship, I'd keep insisting that the pot wasn't working, and that I was immune. "Pot bounces right off me", I'd assert. And then one time I realized that I, quite literally and quite unintentionally, hadn't been inhaling. Just so you know, inhaling makes a big difference. It turns out I am not immune to pot. And it also turns out that a few joints is quite effective at making one almost entirely forget an entire movie. Let this be a lesson to you young'uns out there. Don't buy drugs! (this last statement is waaaaay funnier after you watch Love Actually!, so now you have yet another reason to watch it - you won't be able to appreciate my amazing humor until you do!).

So, here I am, feeling very relieved (and amused) to have found a "more acceptable" explanation for my disconcerting almost-remembrances of a movie I have but have not seen. Better pot than alzheimers, that's what I always say. Well, ok, I've never said that, but I think I'm going to start!

Back to the movie for just a little more squee. There is a very easy way to tell whether something is giving me that oh-so-wonderful feel-good vibe - my entire body breaks out in goosebumps. I love that feeling. When I'm watching a movie with someone who knows me well, and I find something emotionally powerful, I show them my goosebump covered arm and they know exactly what I'm saying. And this movie gave me those kind of goosebumps about 20 times. And did so exactly the same way the second time around. Have I mentioned that I love this movie?

Besides which, I almost always like movies with Hugh Grant. I could handle having his charisma. It would be rough, but I'd put up with it for the good of humanity. Oh, and Emma Thompson is one of my all time favoritest actresses evar! As well, after seeing Kinky Boots, I'm a big fan of Chiwetel Ejiofor. I would also oh-so-begrudingly agree to have a cappucino with Keira Knightley, if the future of humanity depended upon it. Or, for that matter, Lúcia Moniz. And although the euphimistic nature of the cappucino reference does not apply to Alan Rickman, I've very much enjoyed most of his movies too. Points to anyone for where "... with a spoon!" comes from!

I would quote some of my favorite lines/scenes from this movie (I could even do it without wreaking the movie for people who haven't seen it). The problem is, I would quite literally end up reiterating 60 minutes of dialog. So, the best way to see my "best moments" summary of this movie is to see the movie.


[User Picture]From: hestiax
2006-10-19 03:25 pm (UTC)

Robin Hood

"because it would hurt more"
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[User Picture]From: metawade
2006-10-19 04:32 pm (UTC)

Re: Robin Hood

Oh yeah baby! With a spoon!

I hadn't checked my friends list in awhile, and was surprised to see some names I didn't recognize. I have a vague remembrance of yours (cannot remember if I friended you in the past and then unfriended you during a recent LJ cleaning spree because I didn't really recognize the name). It was only when I checked your journal and saw the Gay Rights, D&D and Baby Greaser entries that I decided to co-friend. I look forward to chatting further.

Thanks for the reply. Please let me know how you prefer to be referred to in journal comments - I like using some kind of symbolic name when dropping by to say hi because ... well because names are nice.

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[User Picture]From: hestiax
2006-10-20 04:25 pm (UTC)

Re: Robin Hood

Strange, you still aren't showing up as a mutual friend. We weren't friends before as I just stumbled over you in a poly community, liked what you said and had to check into you further. (weg)

Friends usually just call me Hes, short for Hestia.
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[User Picture]From: irresistiblyred
2006-10-19 04:01 pm (UTC)
yeah that's a great movie... I love the little boy so much.
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[User Picture]From: metawade
2006-10-19 04:44 pm (UTC)

The relationship between the boy and his step-dad was soooo awesome!

Oh, but wait. I've decide to try protraying a more macho, manly image around you nowadays to see if that helps in the stalled seduction attempts ;-) So I can't say things like "the boy/step-dad relationship made my eyes misty", can I! Let's see, how do I do macho? "Bah, dumb movie. No explosions. No killing. Hardly any nudity. Where's my beer!".

Sigh. Nope, it isn't going to work. I'm afraid I'm just not macho. Now, manyly, that is a different story entirely, or so new-girl keeps exclaiming:-) heh heh heh.

And yes, of course this is teasing. 'dems just jokes - don't get mad!

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[User Picture]From: cindy_reddeer
2006-10-19 04:25 pm (UTC)
I also love "Love Actually", some of my favourite scenes are the couple who are standing in for the Porn Actors. lol I am also a huge fan of Alan Rickman (very first movie I remember seeing him in is "Robin Hood, Prince of Theives", he saved that movie and is the reason I watch it over and over just for all his great lines).

I think we all have movies where we miss large chunks of them because of distractions. I went to "The Rose" one time many moons ago, and to this day I can't remember very much of it, but not due to drugs, I was busy making out with my boyfriend at the time (I think I was 14 at the time). ;D Come to think of it, that was also the day Mt. Saint Helens exploded, cause we thought it was foggy when we came out of the movie but it was ash. The strangest things one remembers.
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[User Picture]From: metawade
2006-10-20 08:45 am (UTC)

The scenes with the porn couple are very cute, I agree. As are the wedding scenes and the best man's angst, the aging singers candor, the prime minister and the secretary, the stepson/stepdad, the writer and the housekeeper, the uncool-in-britian boy who goes to america, the 2 years 7 months 3 days and 2 hours girl and her love interest, ... well, ok, every damn scene!

The scenes of PM's sister and her husband and the vampy secretary were so painful. The movie does such an awesome job of conveying both the temptation and the anguish.

The scene where the new bride (Keira) watches the best man's video and realizes he loves her is pure sap, and pure gold. When he comes to her door with the big white cue cards, he does such an awesome job of protraying no-agenda, acceptance-of-reality love. His special surprises during the wedding ceremony were awesome.

The interactions between the stepson and stepdad, and between the stepdad and his friend the sister of the PM, were truly inspiring.

.... geesh - I could go on and on! I will stop before people start thinking I'm sentimental or something crazy like that.

Oh definitely, I agree that we get distracted by other activities. This experience was just a first for me in that I *totally* didn't recognize the cover on the DVD, totally didn't remember the movie when I started, and only every-so-vaguely remembered tiny snippets of the movie, with other snippets being complete blanks. I'm relieved to have discovered a plausible explanation :-)

So what happened with the boyfriend you made out with at 14?

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[User Picture]From: cindy_reddeer
2006-10-20 05:54 pm (UTC)
It is a really odd story. He was my "summer" boyfriend cause when we spent a few weeks with my Grandparents every summer we would hook up starting at around age 11. The summer I turned 16 my tiny petite 2nd cousin who comes across as all helpless, was also visiting my grandparents, and she snagged him away from me. :(

The weird thing is 20 years later my Aunt married his Dad and now he is my step-cousin lol We are friends and he has been through the ringer since he got married when he was 18 the first time. He has been married 3 times and has like 6 kids. I consider myself lucky to have escaped missed that. ;D
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[User Picture]From: abandonbrandon
2006-10-19 05:32 pm (UTC)

"just incases"

one of my and the bigman's favs...and we're big movie buffs. nice post!
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[User Picture]From: metawade
2006-10-19 05:49 pm (UTC)

Re: "just incases" (aka "is being yes")

Kel! How ya doing? I need to go back and read your journal entries, 'cause I don't know much about bigman. And of course I must take this opportunity to (very tactfully, of course) ask whether he is called bigman because he has a really big cock, for some other reason?

Damn - I love it when I make myself laugh. I am the king of tact - yeah baby! Given your delicate naivette, I know I have to be very careful not to spook you too much.

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[User Picture]From: abandonbrandon
2006-10-19 05:55 pm (UTC)

Re: "just incases" (aka "is being yes")

you're so very silly.

michael, aka the bigman, is so-called because of his girth in general. he's a big-and-tall shopper, and his personal width is also quite pleasant. ;->

also worth mentioning is that, because of our insanely adorable baby talk (no! really! our friends like it, too!), this nickname is usually pronounced w/out the "g" and "n". good luck grossing out your friends, too!
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[User Picture]From: metawade
2006-10-20 08:56 am (UTC)

Re: "just incases" (aka "is being yes")

So how long have things been going on with bigman michael? Where'd you meet? Is he musically inclined as well? Is he poly? If I visit SC am I still going to be able to ravish your body?

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[User Picture]From: diachrony
2006-10-20 02:19 am (UTC)
Er ... buh?

I am such a grinch. I remember when most people were squeeing all over my f'list about this movie, so I rented it. And I didn't like it at all.

I seem to recall I thought it was very Hallmark-cardy (trite) and unrealistically bubblegum sweet. I don't remember a whole lot about it otherwise.

I did manage to enjoy The Full Monty, way back when. I can't remember what I thought of Four Weddings & a Funeral.

I don't know what to tell you. I'm an unromantic heathen!

Maybe I should give it a re-watch.
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[User Picture]From: metawade
2006-10-20 02:44 am (UTC)

Oftentimes, having someone enthuse about something ends up building it up and forming expectations that cannot be met, which leads to the thing being disappointing.

I didn't find it trite at all. I certainly agree it wasn't realistic, but I don't require a movie to be realistic to be enjoyable.

I don't think you are an unromantic heathen - you just like different kinds of romance. Nothing wrong with that. It might be worth a rewatch, but if you didn't love it the first time, it is unlikely you'll love the second time. There are probably better uses of your time. Try Ten Tiny Love Stories. Or maybe this one (new - haven't seen it, but the trailer is provocative and not so hetero as to bore ya).

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[User Picture]From: diachrony
2006-10-20 03:41 am (UTC)
Well ... I am very familiar with the situation you describe ~ overly-built-up expectations ~ it's definitely the case with my sister, so if I really love something and want her to share my delight, I just have to downplay it when I introduce it to her!

But it wasn't like that with Love Actually ~ I don't recall having much expectation weighted one way or another. Pro: British! Con: schmoopy!

For me the schmoopiness outweighed the Britishness upon actual viewing.

But then I may have just been feeling extra Grinchlike when I watched it. That's also possible.

One romance movie I absolutely adore ... one of my all-time favorites ... is Harold and Maude.

No ~ movies don't have to be "realistic" for me to enjoy, I agree.

The ones you linked look interesting.

Um, you gave me an idea for a post. Unfortunately, it would take me awhile to get around to it. Hmmm ... must make note ... must not forget this idea ...
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[User Picture]From: metawade
2006-10-20 08:53 am (UTC)

I think movies and our love/hate relationships with them are quite fascinating. I suspect that, depending on what is happening on our own lives at a specific time, almost every movie can be either good, bad or neutral. Movie goodness truly is in the eye of the beholder. I'm sorry you are a grinch; must be hard to be green :-)

I saw Harold and Maude in snippets when I was a pre-teen. I remember it being weird and funny, but didn't clue in to the romantic aspects back then - I was too young.

Looking forward to this mystery post, whatever it is!

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[User Picture]From: scream_aloud
2006-10-20 03:32 pm (UTC)
LOL the title grabbed my attention and I laughed so hard ... Love Actually is a pretty good movie, though I've never watched it while stoned. Kudos.
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[User Picture]From: cindy_reddeer
2006-11-20 03:58 am (UTC)
*Looks at Calendar* Yup... Nov 19th...One month mister, throw us a bone. It doesnt' have to be long (the LJ entry anyway ;p) or witty, just let us know you are still around.
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[User Picture]From: quabazaa
2006-12-07 01:41 pm (UTC)
Yeah, it's been ages since you posted!! I hope you are ok and that Real Life isn't too crazy (or at least, it's the right kind of crazy:)
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